{"id":824,"date":"2019-08-01T06:00:34","date_gmt":"2019-08-01T06:00:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.practicesolutionsinc.net\/blog\/?p=824"},"modified":"2019-08-01T12:06:59","modified_gmt":"2019-08-01T12:06:59","slug":"life-better-werent","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.practicesolutionsinc.net\/blog\/2019\/08\/life-better-werent\/","title":{"rendered":"Life Would Be Better If It Weren&#8217;t For&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever thought, my life would be so much better if it weren\u2019t for\u2026!\u00a0 You fill in the blank.\u00a0 Do your thoughts pertain to circumstances or other people? What if I told you that having a better life has little to do with our circumstances or other people?\u00a0\u00a0 That it is our mindset that determines our quality of life.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/MiV5TlmjV-M\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Today I will share 2 of core concepts to help you live a better life.\u00a0 I created acronyms to make them easier to remember.<\/p>\n<p>The first acronym is B.O.A.T. to help us with those other people!<\/p>\n<p>When we interact with others we are always coming from a place filled with our own experiences.\u00a0 Our expectations differ because of our unique and individual beliefs, opinions, and assumptions based those experiences.\u00a0 These expectations become our personal truths \u2013 how we judge the world by what is right and wrong.\u00a0 To help you remember it they spell out the word B.O.A.T.\u00a0 Beliefs, opinions, assumptions, therefore, are truths based on our experiences.<\/p>\n<p>This is so important that I want to share a story to help it cement!\u00a0 A few years ago when I turned 50\u2026okay maybe a few more than a few.\u00a0 My husband Steve and I went on this amazing trip to Napa!\u00a0 50 seemed like a monumental age to me \u2013 so I wanted to do something that challenged me to grow.\u00a0 I thought I am terrified of heights so why not go on a hot air balloon ride?\u00a0 The morning of the balloon ride we arrive around 6 am outside the town of Napa.\u00a0 There are 7 or 8 balloons all getting ready to go up at the same time.\u00a0 There are 17 people in our balloon \u2013 the balloonist in the middle and four quadrants of four.\u00a0 Steve has his arms around me and asks me if I am going to be okay. I said, I\u2019m fine!\u00a0 He said no really your legs shake on a three foot ladder are you sure you are okay\u2026I said I\u2019m fine\u2026and we women know that means\u2026I am so not fine!<\/p>\n<p>We start to lift off and I am hanging on the edge for dear life thinking I AM SO NOT FINE and this is going to be the longest ride of my life!\u00a0 We get up about 1000 feet-when I start to notice that the basket actually seems pretty stable.\u00a0 I notice no one is talking just taking in the scenery.\u00a0 It is breathtaking!\u00a0 You can see the entire Napa Valley.\u00a0 You can see the Golden Gate Bridge and the other balloons off in the distance.\u00a0 As we floated along I couldn\u2019t help but think &#8211; it was so calm, so serene, so Zen like I could meditate.\u00a0 I was no longer afraid.\u00a0 We landed and Steve asked if it was that scary enough and I said no now we need to do something else.<\/p>\n<p>The point is the next day that same balloon company went up and this time a big gust of wind pushed a one of the balloons into a power line.\u00a0 The people were okay\u2026but do you think they would describe their experience as calm, serene, Zen like!\u00a0 Let\u2019s say we were all together here at the break and sharing our balloon ride experience\u2026I would say it was so safe you could take your kids, and they would say\u2026she\u2019s crazy we almost died.\u00a0 This is life &#8211; so who is right and who is wrong.<\/p>\n<p>Imagine that this room is the universe and holds every potential experience in life.\u00a0 Even if we are a centurion and have lived a very full life\u2026we have probably only experienced this much (make eye-hole) in comparison to all the potential experiences.\u00a0 This is Our B.O.A.T.!\u00a0 The problem is we are making judgments of right and wrong and about other people and our B.O.A.T is very limited.\u00a0 Concept 1 to remember is the only reason people seem difficult is they disagree with our B.O.A.T.!\u00a0 Who\u2019s to say our B.O.A.T. is right and maybe we are the difficult person?\u00a0 Be open to other people\u2019s B.O.A.T.\u2019S!<\/p>\n<p>The second acronym is C.O.W. to help us with circumstances in life!<\/p>\n<p>The average person has 60, 000 thoughts a day\u2026did you know you thought that much?\u00a0 95% are redundant \u2013 which means the thought you had yesterday is the same you had today and the same thought you will think again tomorrow. And 80% are negative unless we are mindful.\u00a0 The awesome news is we can re-wire our brains to start thinking more positively!<\/p>\n<p>Here is where the cow comes in!\u00a0 I am going to share a little of my farm background! C.O.W. is an acronym for <strong>Cognitive<\/strong>\/<strong>Optimistic<\/strong>\/<strong>Wiring <\/strong>to create a new path. Growing up on the farm we had dairy cattle.\u00a0 Every afternoon the cows would come home from the pasture to be milked.\u00a0 They walked in line on the same path every day and would slowly wear a deep rut in the pasture.\u00a0 So deep that we would have to fence it off so we could drive our pickup across.\u00a0 Initially you would see scattered hoof prints until a new path started to emerge.<\/p>\n<p>Our thought paths are like cow paths in that we get in a rut and follow the same path of thinking.\u00a0 That is unless we are mindful about creating a new positive path by fencing out negative thoughts.\u00a0 Initially we will wander and feel uncomfortable until we start to make a new rut\/a new path.\u00a0 The average path\/habit takes 66 days.\u00a0 Concept #2 to remember is -Apply C.O.W. 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